It’s been two months since I have made any updates! It’s been a little busy getting settled as well as I’m heads down with my event which is less than 2 months away.
I had been dragging my feet to schedule an appointment to have the doctor take a look once we got settled. I knew I needed to do it but I struggled with the fact that we might have to use a surrogate if we really wanted to have a baby. This time the procedure was done under local anesthesia (I’m awake) but numbed up. I could see everything he was doing since a camera is inserted. The good news was that it wasn’t scarring that they saw, it was tissue. He removed it right there on the spot; said things were good and let’s talk next week when we have your follow up on next steps. He spoke with Jack and he said it was all positive but I wasn’t going to accept any good news until I truly receive the all clear next week. I returned the next week and the doctor was happy to report that I looked good and that I COULD carry the last embryo. He said to think about retrieving more eggs or transfer the last embryo. He recommended we stick with our doctor as he didn’t think it was good to “change horses mid-stream”. You’re probably wondering how is this done if we now live in a different city? We would be monitored by the doctor here and he would connect with the IVF doctor. When it’s go time (retrieval of the eggs when it’s mature or transferring the embryo); we will fly to the IVF docture within a week for the procedure.
Right now, Jack and I are leaning towards transferring our last embryo vs. retrieving more eggs. I don’t think I want to go through the egg retrieval process again, it’s a nail biter and we are hoping this last one sticks and we’ll have one baby. All we want is one at this point. It’s sad to say but it’s been a very long journey and I don’t like to say it out loud or type it but it is what it is. We have been trying since our wedding in 2012 and we are coming to 5 years at the end of this month (10/26). I look out for hope a lot and I’ll see stories here and there about others that have had struggles too and had their happy ending (either through adoption, natural miracles or surrogacy) and it helps us move forward. Here’s a story that reflects upon our 5 year struggle…..yes it’s a celebrity. They have been struggling since they were married 5 years ago and they are expecting twins via surrogate! I don’t know when this journey will come to an end but either way we look for answers every day on what to do next.
The next hurdle is to ensure my lining gets thick enough as I have had many issues with this in the past. Right now things look good so we hope it’s going to continue to be good going forward. It’s about a 6 week process to prep your body for a transfer. With my big event coming up, we’ve decided to hold off until my event is completed to reduce the stress.
Other than that, we are getting settled. We are still grasping in the fact that we live here! I am happy that it’s sunny (Jack prefers the rain) but I will say we already miss the 4 seasons. Living in the “valley” it feels like we are in Texas…it was 95 yesterday but without the humidity. And I love seeing my friends although they are at least 30 minutes away. I did not have many good friends in the old city so we are both adjusting on the friend front. Jack is still figuring out his place in his new role but it’s good to be working with familiar faces. And of course, we are exploring the areas near and far in the area. Next up is a little R&R for our anniversary and a trip down the road in November!
Thanks for reading!